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“A boundary is something you have control over with a clear action you are capable of taking as a consequence.

“Don’t talk to me if you’re a Nazi” — This is not a boundary, this is a demand and it’s not something you have any control over. Nazis can and will initiate contact with whoever they want.

“If you talk to me and I find out you’re a Nazi, I will block you” — A boundary. A clear cause and effect that YOU have control over.”

hadeantaiga

DNI (Do Not Interact lists) are common online. But there are plenty of people I would prefer not to interact with, but I have no control over it. Whether it's subway molesters or guys drizzling beer on you at concerts.

In real life I would physically move my body from such people. Online all I can do is mute, block, and ignore.

i've largely abandoned “minors dni” as a label in my bio, mainly because i believe minors should be able to talk to an adult that isnt in their immediate surroundings, but also because i was a minor once upon a time and without the few adults who did talk to me, i would have been completely ignorant of what was to come in early adulthood, i would have been so much more naïve and susceptible to manipulation, so on and so forth

shebang@is-a.cat